खबरमाला संवाददाता Jeshika Lamsal
Marriage is a beautiful phase of life where people choose to be together for the rest of their lives with happiness, compassion, and love. However, that sweetness can quickly turn into bitterness when one person forgets to respect the other person. In marriage or a relationship, one can compromise regarding what will be served at the dinner table, but one cannot compromise oneself, self-respect, and one’s life for a relationship. With the devastating news of Mamta Kafle and Muna Pandey, many Nepalese are shocked and in grief. Mamata’s news has made national headlines.
As a Nepali, it’s hard to answer questions when non – Nepali ask at work questioning our culture or male figures. Our Hindu culture is so rich that women are given the utmost respect since the time of god and goodness. For example, RadhKrishna, Laxmi Narayan, and many other gods have their wives’ names before their names; that’s the core of Nepali Culture or Hindu Culture. But taking a step back and looking at both cases, it’s not the culture or the society that killed our two girls. It was the wrong and cruel person that killed the two girls. There is no such thing as only a boy or a girl is terrible; it’s the person who is evil. When one does something wrong, people tend to blame the culture, the country they are from, or the parents, which does not take us anywhere in solving this problem. The problem is that people blame everyone and everything they can think about, chatter about the case for a week, and forget about the root cause. How Mamata and Muna could be alive today is not what a lot of us are discussing. What is done can’t be retrieved. But one thing we can do is to educate everyone on what can be done in the time of threat, which later elevated to death and murder. There are discussions about how the two men should be punished, as they broke the law, they will be punished, but let’s think about how we can use the same law and prevent this kind of incident from happening ever again.
According to an article published in “Pew Research Center,” “While about three-in-ten U.S. adults (31%) say they are single – that is, not married, living with a partner or in a committed romantic relationship – that share varies widely across demographic groups.” So, more than half of people in the U.S. are dating, and as part of the Gen Z culture, it does not seem odd to date, but does dating mean getting killed or being abused by the boy or the girl? Absolutely not. In case of stalking, assault, domestic violence, or anything that scares you from your partner, you have the right to file for a restraining order.” According to Wikipedia, a restraining order is “A restraining order or protective order,[a] is an order used by a court to protect a person in a situation often involving alleged domestic violence, child abuse, assault, harassment, stalking, or sexual assault.” If any of these things happen in a relationship, it should be reported to the nearby police officer for your own safety, whether it’s a girl or a boy. It is essential to understand that domestic violence restraining order law has specific laws on whether someone is stalking you or conducting sexual abuse. One does not have to take the matter too far to be a subject of domestic violence; one can report when minor things happen, such as simple assault or even stalking. Every state of the U.S. has one type of restraining order, and it has its kind or different branches of restraining order.
One can file a domestic violence case when they are in a “domestic” relationship, which includes family, sexual, household, or intimate relationships. You can choose how long you want the restrained order to last. And after some time, if the person, boy or girl, bothers you again, you could simply work in court or the police office on the matter. To file sexual assault, any prior relationship is not required to file a sexual assault restraining order. If in the case of your state does not have a specific sexual assault restraining order statute, you could qualify for a domestic violence restraining order. Under the stalking protective order, one can file with or without any prior relationship to protect oneself.
Knowing rights and using them is much easier than regretting the damage done to society. It might seem daunting to stand up for yourself, but it is an excellent way to the freedom that America provides. In the case of intestate violence, there is a law for that, “18 U.S.C. § 2262 – Interstate Violation of a Protective Order,” which one can use to protect oneself.
A person can identify the root of domestic violence when their male or female partner tries to maintain power or control over their life. According to the “National Domestic Violence Hotline,” in the article they published about “Why People Abuse” states that, “Domestic violence stems from a desire to gain and maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abusive people believe they have the right to control and restrict their partner’s lives.” As a parent, teach your kids to stand up for themselves rather than saying suck it up for society. Understanding laws that help you is a great way to process your skills and the people around you so you never have to talk about any other man or woman dying in marriage ever again.
There is help out there: the National Domestic Violence Hotline.” Let’s stop blaming the male and see that there are plenty of bad people in this world, but we have resources around us that we could use to protect ourselves. Just like one has to eat to fulfill one’s hunger, one has to learn to defend oneself to live the life one wishes for oneself.
